Unsupportive parents (a little general advice)

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Posted by Nick on August 3, 2001 at 17:18:11:

In reply to: Unsupportive parents posted by Jenna on August 3, 2001 at 16:57:52:

This is a tough subject, because we have to tread carefully so as not
to offend anyone's parents!
But there are really 2 kinds of 'unsupportiveness:' there is
the 'whatever, i don't care' type, and the 'i don't like it, and i
don't want you to do it' type. The latter is probably harder to deal
with than the first. I actually think the first can even benefit your
artistic abilities, because you will be forced to delve into your own
mind for support and inspiration. It also forces you to do do much of
the work yourself, which builds character and adds to the
satisfaction of the finished product.
The latter, however, is a different matter. If your parents don't
like it, i would try to ask them why. If they can give you a reason,
try to disprove their reasoning in a friendly yet factual way. For
example, if they were to say something like 'well we're *insert
religion* and we don't want you doing it because it is against our
religion,' go find the facts to show that your religion *was* doing
it at some point in history. That's a very specific instance, but
that's the general idea. Just don't loose it. If you can prove to
them that this is important to you and that it has no unpleasant
implications, do so in a sophisticated and composed manner. Never
resort to yelling or arguing, for that will only get you deeper into
the conflict. Present to them the facts, give them time to absorb it,
and *hope hope hope* that they will come around.
ok, have i rambled long enough about conflict resolution?
I hope that helps.
From one teenager to another,
~Nick

: I'm sure most people here have had this problem... so what did you
: do? What do you do when your parents are unsupportive of something
: you like or want to do?

Follow Ups

Re: Unsupportive parents (a little general advice) Jenna 17:28:11 8/3/2001 (5)
- Re: Unsupportive parents (a little general advice) Kenzi 00:23:02 8/4/2001 (1)
  - Re: Unsupportive parents (a little general advice) Cheryl (aka Selkie) 17:35:37 8/6/2001 (0)
- Speaking as a parent.... Shel 20:56:14 8/3/2001 (0)
- Re: Unsupportive parents-been there! Miss Monica 19:32:17 8/3/2001 (0)
- try.... khoa 18:58:29 8/3/2001 (0)

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: This is a tough subject, because we have to tread carefully so as not : to offend anyone's parents! : But there are really 2 kinds of 'unsupportiveness:' there is : the 'whatever, i don't care' type, and the 'i don't like it, and i : don't want you to do it' type. The latter is probably harder to deal : with than the first. I actually think the first can even benefit your : artistic abilities, because you will be forced to delve into your own : mind for support and inspiration. It also forces you to do do much of : the work yourself, which builds character and adds to the : satisfaction of the finished product. : The latter, however, is a different matter. If your parents don't : like it, i would try to ask them why. If they can give you a reason, : try to disprove their reasoning in a friendly yet factual way. For : example, if they were to say something like 'well we're insert : religion and we don't want you doing it because it is against our : religion,' go find the facts to show that your religion was doing : it at some point in history. That's a very specific instance, but : that's the general idea. Just don't loose it. If you can prove to : them that this is important to you and that it has no unpleasant : implications, do so in a sophisticated and composed manner. Never : resort to yelling or arguing, for that will only get you deeper into : the conflict. Present to them the facts, give them time to absorb it, : and hope hope hope that they will come around. : ok, have i rambled long enough about conflict resolution? : I hope that helps. : From one teenager to another, : ~Nick : : : : I'm sure most people here have had this problem... so what did you : : do? What do you do when your parents are unsupportive of something : : you like or want to do?
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