Re: Help.

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Posted by Maureen on September 15, 2001 at 12:31:28:

In reply to: Help. posted by Khoa on September 15, 2001 at 07:27:43:

Hi Khoa,

It is hard to tell from your post exactly what symptoms you are
experiencing and to what degree you are in need of help. A
psychiatrist is probably not what you need right now unless you are
needing a diagnosis and/or medication. If you are on meds or have
been on meds and think that is what you need, then you need to get in
touch with your former doctor or a community mental health faciity so
they can get you what you need. It appears first that you need to
let others around you...your family and others you trust know that
you feel that you are emotionally in trouble right now. You need to
share this with someone who is immediately available to you and who
can keep an eye on you right through here. I don't know your history
so I don't know if the current traumatic events are triggering
something old for you or if you are experiencing something
called "secondary trauma" which is experiencing the trauma of someone
else as if it occurred directly to you. Or it could be something
else completely. If it is either of the two you should have someone
help you to make contact with a therapist or counselor in you area.
What you are experiencing would be something that will require a
little work to process you through it. If it is something else that
persists, you should still have someone help you get in contact with
a therapist or counselor in your area to help you perhaps on a more
short term basis.

My immediate suggestion is for you not to isolate and withdraw though
that makes sense as a way to cope. But it doesn't get you any help.
And help is what it sounds like you are needing or at least asking
for. Try to get in touch with words that express what emotions you
are having and what body sensations you are experiencing and let
someone know about them now. The deep breathing exercises suggested
may help you relax some of the tension you are feeling. If that
works and is enough then keep doing it. If it is not enough PLEASE
let your family know right now that you are in distress and need some
help. It would just be too difficult for anyone who is not with you
to get a good feel for what you are experiencing. It would also be
unsafe to make suggestions that might not be suitable for who you
are, your history and with so little information.

I want to acknowledge that it sounds like you are experiencing
something exceptional. I don't know if it has passed yet. Honor
yourself and know yourself enough to know when you need help and be
good to yourself and get the help you need. You can get support here
on the forum but if something serious is going on you will need
more. I hope you begin to feel better and find a way to manage what
you are feeling and experiencing. We all need help sometimes and
there is nothing wiser than seeking it out and using the help you are
given. Take care of yourself. Stop following what is occurring in
the news since it is getting inside of you in a way does not sound
healthy for you right now. And TALK with someone you feel SAFE to
talk with and EXPRESS what is going on with you right now. When
something is too big for you to handle, there is nothing better than
having someone help you to carry the load...even when it is an
emotional load you need help with.

Please let us know how you are progressing.

Maureen

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: Hi Khoa, : : It is hard to tell from your post exactly what symptoms you are : experiencing and to what degree you are in need of help. A : psychiatrist is probably not what you need right now unless you are : needing a diagnosis and/or medication. If you are on meds or have : been on meds and think that is what you need, then you need to get in : touch with your former doctor or a community mental health faciity so : they can get you what you need. It appears first that you need to : let others around you...your family and others you trust know that : you feel that you are emotionally in trouble right now. You need to : share this with someone who is immediately available to you and who : can keep an eye on you right through here. I don't know your history : so I don't know if the current traumatic events are triggering : something old for you or if you are experiencing something : called "secondary trauma" which is experiencing the trauma of someone : else as if it occurred directly to you. Or it could be something : else completely. If it is either of the two you should have someone : help you to make contact with a therapist or counselor in you area. : What you are experiencing would be something that will require a : little work to process you through it. If it is something else that : persists, you should still have someone help you get in contact with : a therapist or counselor in your area to help you perhaps on a more : short term basis. : : My immediate suggestion is for you not to isolate and withdraw though : that makes sense as a way to cope. But it doesn't get you any help. : And help is what it sounds like you are needing or at least asking : for. Try to get in touch with words that express what emotions you : are having and what body sensations you are experiencing and let : someone know about them now. The deep breathing exercises suggested : may help you relax some of the tension you are feeling. If that : works and is enough then keep doing it. If it is not enough PLEASE : let your family know right now that you are in distress and need some : help. It would just be too difficult for anyone who is not with you : to get a good feel for what you are experiencing. It would also be : unsafe to make suggestions that might not be suitable for who you : are, your history and with so little information. : : I want to acknowledge that it sounds like you are experiencing : something exceptional. I don't know if it has passed yet. Honor : yourself and know yourself enough to know when you need help and be : good to yourself and get the help you need. You can get support here : on the forum but if something serious is going on you will need : more. I hope you begin to feel better and find a way to manage what : you are feeling and experiencing. We all need help sometimes and : there is nothing wiser than seeking it out and using the help you are : given. Take care of yourself. Stop following what is occurring in : the news since it is getting inside of you in a way does not sound : healthy for you right now. And TALK with someone you feel SAFE to : talk with and EXPRESS what is going on with you right now. When : something is too big for you to handle, there is nothing better than : having someone help you to carry the load...even when it is an : emotional load you need help with. : : Please let us know how you are progressing. : : Maureen
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